Learning to let go

Recently, I’ve started to “like” more pages on facebook that talks about random stuff. Some of which are actually quite interesting.

Science of Madness, from its name, talks about anything that is science related. So there was such a post:



A psychologist walked around a room while teaching stress management to an audience. As she raised a glass of water, everyone expected they’d be asked the “half empty or half full” question. Instead, with a smile on her face, she inquired: “How heavy is this glass of water?”

Answers called out ranged from 8 oz. to 20 oz.

She replied, “The absolute weight doesn’t matter. It depends on how long I hold it. If I hold it for a minute, it’s not a problem. If I hold it for an hour, I’ll have an ache in my arm. If I hold it for a day, my arm will feel numb and paralyzed. In each case, the weight of the glass doesn’t change, but the longer I hold it, the heavier it becomes.” She continued, “The stresses and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. Think about them a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything.”

It’s important to remember to let go of your stresses. As early in the evening as you can, put all your burdens down. Don’t carry them through the evening and into the night. Remember to put the glass down!

It serves as a good reminder to many of us.

Quoting work as an example – after a long and shitty day at work, you reach home weary and can’t wait to hit the bed. Wake up the next morning and the cycle repeats. Some might dread going to work – possibly due to stress or whatever not. This kind of “burden” as I name it, is something that we can learn to deal with (the pot calling the kettle black, I know..).

The kind of stress we have – not just at the workplace, it can be a “grouch” that we hold against anything in our daily lives – are sometimes the root causes of our unhappiness. The longer we hold them, the more tired / unhappy we become.

Stress, don’t take it too hard on yourself. Learn to deal with it in a positive manner, it will give you pretty (and sometimes unexpected) results.

Grudges, they come and go. There will be too many of them for you to remember every single one of them. Take them as lessons learnt. The experiences gained will be valuable in your decision making should the same thing happen again.

So the trick is – learn to let go.

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